“What you really want?”

We all want pretty much the same things. Things that, we believe, everyone would want. Things that'll make us feel good.

Things that will make your eyes sparkle and make you glow. So when you walk in the room, people will notice you!

You want to have an amazing job and be financially independent?

Money, popularity, looking good...

Be happy, have a career, falling in love...

Now, ask yourself the question.

"So tell me what you want, what you really, really want..."

I want to be happy!

I want to have a family!

But is this what we really want?

What are your goals, your passion?

Because there is no great achievement without pain!

Now, let's rephrase that question:

"How much are you ready to lose?"

Are you ready to suffer?

Are you ready to struggle?

That's what people want. Become rich, fast and without any risk.

But you'll probably have to go through tons of paperwork, say ok to your annoying boss, the long hours, participate in some boring meetings first.

Being happy involves negative experiences. The positive side effect of this is how you handle things.

We want the perfect body.

But to achieve such a thing, you have to appreciate the pain legitimately the gym, calibrating your food, planned plate-sized portions.

We want to start our own business.

Becoming a successful entrepreneur and be financially independent. But first, you have to "enjoy" the risks, the failures, and sometimes, the sleepless nights you might endure. Working for hours and hours on something you don't know you'll succeed for.

We want to find our soul mate.

The search for "THE" perfect love. Out there somewhere...

But how hard it is to find it right away. First, you have to accept you will be rejected, there will be some sexual tensions. And, of course, your heart rising when you hear your phone ringing.

It's not what you have right now that makes you who you are... It's the journey that is the most important thing. It's what defines you and makes who you are...

It's how you brought yourself up amongst the others. Not because you are similar to others, but what you add up to the group.

- If you want the positive side of something in your life, you also want the negative costs.

- If you want the six-packs, you have to want the gym sessions, the sweat...

- If you want the mansion, you also have to want to stay up late, take some business risky moves...You might even lose some money! Of course, let's not forget about the annoying boss.

- And if you find yourself wanting the same thing over and over and you still haven't achieved it, then maybe what you really want is the fantasy itself. The image it reflects, but you do not want the suffering part.

What you want is just enjoying wanting something. Maybe you don't even want it at all.

Obviously, you would ask people: "What would you do to make yourself happy?"

And we will answer the same thing. I want to be an artist, a rock star, having a dream job...

It's all about reaching the stars and left the struggles aside. But life doesn't work that way!

But, if you think about it, it's more rewarding to ask:

"What did you choose to suffer for?"

Because you will be more enthusiastic and you will be showing off about your experience, your "down moments"...

Even though you fantasies about something, and you might chase it for almost all your life... Sometimes, you need to wake up and face reality.